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Ah, the wedding guestlist; a constant source of drama, whether you\u2019re having a child-free do or need to cut down on numbers and leave someone out.<\/p>\n
This woman has learned how controversial these things can be the hard way, with her family flying off the handle over who is (and isn\u2019t) invited to her upcoming nuptials. <\/p>\n
Posting on Reddit, the 32-year-old explained that she had been planning her big day since getting engaged to her fianc\u00e9, 27, around a year ago.<\/p>\n
\u2018My family has been fighting me every step of the way,\u2019 she said, revealing that they had issues with the proposed venue being \u2018too far\u2019 and her choice of food. <\/p>\n
The bride-to-be\u2019s relatives even tried to tell her which dress to wear, leaving her to describe the situation as \u2018a nightmare\u2019.<\/p>\n
Things came to a head recently while the woman was having breakfast with her mum and grandmother and they were chatting about the wedding. <\/p>\n
Her post continued: \u2018My mother casually said something along the lines of a list of people she was going to invite.<\/p>\n
\u2018I put my foot down and said, \u201cNo, you\u2019re not inviting people I don\u2019t know to my wedding.\u201d Her response was, \u201cWell, if I am helping pay for it then I will invite whoever I want.\u201d\u2018<\/p>\n
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At this, the woman replied that she hadn\u2019t asked for any financial assistance and she and her partner would be footing the bill themselves, meaning family weren\u2019t able to invite extra guests \u2013 and many of those already on the list would not be getting a plus one.<\/p>\n
\u2018I want a small wedding,\u2019 she added. \u201950\/60 people is the absolute max and that is a lot. My guest list at the moment is right around that number and I\u2019m not budging on it.\u2019<\/p>\n
This seemed to upset her grandma, who called her a \u2018b*tch\u2019 and ended the conversation. <\/p>\n
Although the bride-to-be felt she had accommodated her mother by inviting family friends who she\u2019d met to the celebration, she also questioned whether putting her foot down here was the right thing to do.<\/p>\n
Yet Redditors were largely in support of her choices.<\/p>\n
\u2018Some people are so entitled, it\u2019s unreal,\u2019 commented one user, while another said: \u2018I wouldn\u2019t even want to be around people like that.\u2019<\/p>\n
\u2018I admire that nice, shiny spine you have,\u2019 added a third. \u2018Wedding contributions almost always have strings attached. Good on you for cutting them quick!\u2019<\/p>\n
Keeping it simple, one more wrote: \u2018Your wedding, you\u2019re paying, your choice.\u2019<\/p>\n
Some even suggested uninviting the two women entirely, seating them at the back for the reception, or scrapping the whole thing and eloping.<\/p>\n
One (slightly less extreme) piece of advice proposed: \u2018Tell them if they want to throw their own little celebration\/party\/dinner for you and your new husband and anyone they want to invite, that they are welcome to do so and foot the bill.\u2019<\/p>\n
Weddings are increasingly expensive, so it\u2019s understandable this couple are trying to avoid costs spiralling. A large gathering full of acquaintances clearly isn\u2019t what they want either, and it\u2019s their right to push back on the pressure and go with what suits them \u2013 especially since they\u2019re paying.<\/p>\n
Yet while going scorched earth on mum and grandma might cut their guest list by two, it may add even more drama to an already-fraught situation, as well as alienating those who they actually want to spend the day with.<\/p>\n
What do you think?<\/p>\n