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Some people prefer to steer clear of sex during their period, while others find it makes them hornier than usual and want to pack in the orgasms to relieve their cramps.<\/p>\n
This woman, however, has some feelings about what her partner gets up to while she\u2019s menstruating, and it\u2019s causing frustration in their relationship.<\/p>\n
On Mumsnet, the 39-year-old sought advice over whether her viewpoint was unreasonable, saying she\u2019d \u2018been thinking of posting this for ages\u2019 and was \u2018finally biting the bullet.\u2019<\/p>\n
\u2018Am I being unreasonable to ask my husband not to relieve himself (masturbate) when I am on my monthly cycle and to come to me\/ask me if he needs a \u201crelease\u201d during this time?\u2019 she asked.<\/p>\n
Commenters pushed her for more details, unable to understand why his habits affected her.<\/p>\n
\u2018He knows it makes me feel a failure if he needs to do it himself (plus I know he would watch porn to do it),\u2019 replied the woman.<\/p>\n
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Further explaining her position, she continued: \u2018My last partner cheated on me throughout our relationship<\/p>\n
\u2018What can I do or say? Ask him to jerk off but not to porn? He will use porn to jerk off to even if he says he won\u2019t (I believe) so that\u2019s why I asked him to ask me.\u2019<\/p>\n
It appeared as though the woman\u2019s problem was not specifically with him masturbating but with his porn use, as well as her belief he was being dishonest about watching it.<\/p>\n
Yet despite the issue being more complicated than it first appeared, many still believed her request was unreasonable.<\/p>\n
\u2018If my partner tried to control how and when I masturbate I\u2019d leave him,\u2019 said one user, while another added: \u2018Why do you even care? So he might use porn. So what? Give yourself (and him) a break from trying to micromanage him.\u2019<\/p>\n
A third wrote: \u2018You could look at this as him being thoughtful. He recognises that you might have period pains, feel grouchy and don\u2019t want to deal with his sexual feelings at that time. So he masturbates, rather than be a pest. As long as he\u2019s not doing it in front of you, I don\u2019t see it as an issue.\u2019<\/p>\n
Others felt differently, including one person who said: \u2018If you want to offer your partner a sexual act with you as an alternative to his DIY, by all means do so. He may decline, which is obviously his right. But no harm in the suggestion.<\/p>\n
\u2018As for porn, it\u2019s entirely reasonable not to want a partner who uses it due to the ethical issues so that\u2019s another conversation.\u2019<\/p>\n
Another added: \u2018It is reasonable if you don\u2019t want him to get himself off to porn and he should respect that if your relationship is monogamous and masturbate without it.<\/p>\n
Some also \u2013 since the original poster later confirmed she doesn\u2019t masturbate \u2013 suggested she give it a go herself. What\u2019s good for the goose is good for the gander after all.<\/p>\n