Have you ever heard of a sexual blueprint?
The phrase was coined a few years ago by a sex expert named Jaiya, who claims that all of us belong to one (or more) of five different categories, which outline what turns us on.
For instance, if you fall into ‘energetic’ you are aroused by space, anticipation and teasing – while those who identify as ‘kinky’ get hot and heavy over taboo sexual activities.
Meanwhile ‘shapeshifters’ are aroused by every category.
But is this categorisation useful, what are the benefits and how can you tell which type you are?
Let’s find out.
What is a sexual blueprint?
Technically known as Erotic Blueprint Breakthrough, according to its creator, this can apparently allow you to discover skills to make your sex life even better.
Or, as the website states: ‘uncover the language of deep connection, hot passion and sexual satisfaction’.
The types of sexual blueprint that exist
- Energetic – Aroused by space, anticipation and tease
- Sensual – Aroused by sensation, touch sound, taste and smell
- Sexual – Aroused by the simple act of intercourse
- Kinky – Aroused by the taboo
- Shapeshifter – Aroused by all of the above, can change and shift
You will reportedly be better at communicating your needs to sexual partners, and in turn, find out if you are sexually compatible.
But don’t fret if your ‘types’ don’t pair up – as that’s actually not the point, says Jaiya.
‘You don’t have a compatibility issue,’ she said in an interview with Influencive.
‘If you think about the blueprints as languages, imagine energetic being like Japanese, sensual being French, sexual being American English and Persian being kinky.
‘If your partner speaks French and you speak Persian, you have to learn how to speak their language.’
How do you find out your sexual blueprint?
This is the easiest part: all you have to do is take a free online quiz that will determine which type you are.
Naturally, to give you as much insight as possible, we took the test for ourselves.
There are 22 questions in total, including the basics such as your gender and sexuality.
However, then it gets tricky, as a lot of the questions are quite open-ended and can depend on a person’s mood on the day.
Let us explain.
For instance, one question asks when you are ‘most turned on’, providing four options: when it’s romantic sex, when you just ‘go for it’, both or neither. Most people likely prefer a mix, which could mean we all end up in the same category.
Also, even if you are given one type, this is then broken down into percentages.
As an example, we were 27.27% sexual, 22.73% sensual, 18.18% shapeshifter, 18.18% kinky and 13.64% energetic.
But let’s get to the important part – is there a benefit to knowing your sexual blueprint?
Sarah Louise Ryan, relationship expert and CEO of the Love Collective Global, believes that while this particular quiz isn’t the only way to find out what you like in bed, it could be a good way to find out more about your body and what makes it tick.
‘Understanding your needs, wants and desires on a physical level is important to getting to know yourself better and being able to share that openly with any sexual partners to deepen intimacy,’ she tells Metro.co.uk.
‘Specific categories and kinks are helpful in order to for us to understand ourselves on a deeper level, to get to grips with our boundaries in the bedroom as well as understanding what we align with or not (sexually or otherwise).’
However, Sarah adds that putting yourself in a box could actually hinder your sexual progression as we are continuously evolving, sexually – with our drives and desires dictated by our mood, circumstance and sexual partner.
She adds: ‘I believe our sexual preferences can change in the same way our attachment styles on a romantic level can change and this is just part of life and the love experiences that present themselves to us.’
Another expert, Billie Quinlan, founder of Ferly, a mindful sex app, is all for the sexual blueprint.
She says it is beneficial because most of us aren’t taught enough about pleasure when younger – and so, we aren’t told to explore what we want sexually.
The five types could then help you figure out what your mind and body responds best to.
‘The sex education we get as children and young adults fails to prepare us for sexually satisfying lives,’ Billie says.
‘The importance of pleasure is almost neglected entirely. So, when we enter adulthood and begin to navigate long-term relationships we need to find a new way to understand our sexuality and our pleasure.
‘We need to seek out a second sex education.
‘The sexual blueprint, created by Jaiya, is an amazing example of this. It helps us learn about our arousal – the things that turn us on and off. And we need more tools like this, because a satisfying sex life is integral to our wellbeing.’
However, one aspect that this quiz fails to acknowledge is that even if you know what you like, that doesn’t mean you will feel ready to share this with your partner(s).
But, as luck would have it, we have created a guide for how to tell someone what you’re after in the bedroom.
And it’s important to remember that the quiz forms part of an eight-week programme that Jaiya offers, and while it may be beneficial, it’s still a business – so take it all with a pinch of salt.
But if you fancy giving the quiz a go, you can do so here.
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