My addictions to porn and sex are ruining my life

DEAR DEIDRE: MY addictions to porn and sex are ruining my life.

I am a 36-year-old man, and I have used porn since I was 18.


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Over the years, my need to watch it has increased and now it’s every night.

Sometimes when I am at work I even go to the loo and watch it on my phone.

I have tried stopping so many times, but I always relapse.

I find it impossible to have a proper relationship with a woman. Only casual sex turns me on.

I want instant satisfaction and can’t get excited unless I’m with someone new.

I often can’t get an erection unless I’m watching porn, no matter how attractive the woman I’m with is.

My taste in porn has become more extreme too. Lately, I don’t get aroused unless I’m watching quite nasty stuff.

I hate myself for this. I’m at breaking point.

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I know I need to deal with my problem, but I have nowhere to turn.

My friends know I watch a lot of porn, but don’t know the extent of it.

DEIDRE SAYS: Addictions to porn and sex can be as hard to beat as any drug. The answer is to get to the root of these harmful desires.

My support packs Pornography Addiction and Sex Addiction will help and give you sources of support.

You could also try the free Kick Start Recovery Programme, which provides self-help for sex addiction (sexaddictionhelp.co.uk).

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