DEAR DEIDRE: JUST as I was planning to propose to my girlfriend, I found out that she had cheated on me years ago.
I’m 28 and she’s 29. We have been together for ten years.
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I really love her and thought we would get married and have kids. I had even started looking at rings.
But then I accidentally found an old picture of her with another man.
When I asked her about him, she got upset and confessed he was a guy she’d had a fling with while on a girls’ weekend eight years ago.
She said she hadn’t told me back then because it meant nothing and she didn’t want to hurt me.
She has been nothing but a brilliant girlfriend in the past few years.
But it has made me question our relationship.
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If she could keep that secret, what else could she be hiding from me?
It feels like we have been living a lie.
DEIDRE SAYS: It is natural to have doubts after a shock like this.
But be careful not to throw away a good relationship and your future because of something that happened years ago.
Remember, we all change a lot between our early and late twenties. She has been loyal and honest since.
My support pack, Learning About Relationships, explains more.
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