I have terminal cancer and want to rebuild relationship with my daughter

DEAR DEIDRE: MY daughter has refused to speak to me since I left her mum – my first wife – but I’ve stayed in touch with my son.

Now I’ve learned I have terminal cancer and no more than two months to live.


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I would like to make my peace with her.

I’m 74, she’s 47 and my son is 49. What little I have I would like to share equally between her and my son.

He has brought her up to speed with my diagnosis but so far I have not heard from her.

Do I go ahead and ensure my estate is divided equally in the hope she gets in contact?

Or should I wait until she does get in touch before making a decision?

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DEIDRE SAYS: Ideally, you would approach your daughter directly.

It will always be more difficult to decipher a conversation via a third party.

Perhaps a letter from you would help you express yourself. Focus on how much you love her and want to make things right before you go.

For support, contact Standalone (standalone.org.uk) which help adults who are estranged from their families.

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