If you identify as LGBTQ, it’s possible you’ve been on the receiving end of comments from others that are strange, stupid, or just plain bigoted.
So this week, a Reddit thread asked, “LGBTQ+ people, what are you tired of hearing?”
Trigger warning: Some anti-LGBTQ rhetoric is discussed in this post.
The thread quickly went viral, as people from all across the LGBTQ spectrum started sharing the questions and comments they’re sick of getting. Here’s what they said:
1.“I’m a lesbian. People say: ‘Which one of you is the man in the relationship?’…No one. That’s the point.”
—amhinton16
2.“‘Bi isn’t a real thing,’ according to my father.”
—lost_all_brain_cells
3.“As someone who is bi, being asked how you ‘satisfy’ that urge when in a partnership. That’s not how it works, and it’s a really annoying question.”
—candycanenightmare
4.“‘Have you tried the other gender? You might like it.’ I could ask you the same thing, dude.”
—ackorna
5.“That feminine lesbians are less valid because they are straight-passing. Irritates the fuck out of me.”
—forever-halloween
6.“‘You’re gay so you have to like Cher, Will and Grace, drag, etc.'”
—Flying_sky_bear
7.“‘It’s just a phase.’ That grinds my gears, man.”
—xehmily
8.“TransgendERED.”
—alexbx77
9.“Straight men to lesbians: ‘I can turn you straight.'”
—sqvip
10.“I’m tired of being told my existence is political. Just me existing. That’s too political.”
—KazeBreegull
11.“Bi erasure, just in general. Like, just because I’m bi and I’ve never been in a relationship with a guy (because I only came out last month) doesn’t mean I’m not bi.”
—RepentantSkyX
12.“‘I don’t hate you, I hate the sin.'”
—jjjknj7
13.“’You’re not part of the LGBTQ community if you’re in a ‘straight’ relationship.'”
—ScreamingOpossum
14.“’Oh honey, you’re just confused!’ I’m very confused about a lot of things in life, but I am not confused about being bisexual, Mom.”
—italianbankers
15.“‘You don’t need to transition. You just need to learn to love your body.'”
—LittleRedLamps
16.“‘I don’t support that lifestyle.’ It’s not a lifestyle. You don’t just choose to be gay one day. It doesn’t work like that. Being vegan is a lifestyle, being gay is not.”
—Jomatnatil
17.“’Don’t force that gay shit on me.’ Said to me by someone seeing my rainbow bracelet. I didn’t even know who they were.”
—Snerpahsner
18.“People saying that kids shouldn’t know that queer people exist because it’s somehow inherently R-rated.”
—Pseudonymico
19.“‘What was your original name?’ I rarely come out as trans outside of medical/romantic situations, but once in a while I’ll tell a friend, and this happens about 75% of the time.”
—NorthernHackberry
20.“Trans and bi guy here. Hooooo boy. ‘Have you had THE SURGERY????'”
—blueberryducttape
21.“‘It’s okay to be gay, but don’t be a stereotypical gay. That’s annoying.’ Look, honey, let me wear a flannel and kiss my beautiful girlfriend in peace.”
—BlueCandyBars
22.“As an asexual I’m tired of hearing, ‘You just haven’t met the right person yet.'”
—ravenclaw-starkid
23.“‘I don’t mind gay people as long as they don’t push it on me.’ Like, who’s gay out here pushing it on you. Literally no one. What you really mean is, as long as we stay closeted and unequal in society and don’t bring up our spouses or whatever in normal conversation LIKE NORMAL PEOPLE DO.”
—Hedgehogz_Mom
And finally…
24.“Tired of hearing people use a mocking/stereotypical ‘gay male’ voice and think it’s funny.”
—surferrosa1984
Just a quick reminder to everyone in our LGBTQ family:
And if you need more resources or support, check out The Trevor Project.
Note: Some responses have been edited for length and/or clarity.
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